People live their lives fearing a lot of things. When you
are a kid you fear darkness, spiders, lizards, school bullies and what not. And
then when you grow up you may evolve in your fears and start fearing heights, people
of the opposite gender, solitude and then your garden variety darkness,
insects, et al. I was never scared of darkness; I’ve always feared insects;
spiders, lizards, cockroaches and everything that has wings, and crawls. But, disappointment
is the single biggest fear we have in our lifetimes, I fear. Fear of
disappointing our parents, teachers, friends, boy/girlfriend and then
eventually our spouse and finally our children is what riddles us throughout
our lives. But, the most dangerous kind of fear of disappointment is
disappointing you!
I’ve heard people
rant about expecting less from people to avoid disappointment. All that’s cool!
Though I have a problem with people who claim to be in a relationship without
expecting to be loved and cherished. I could never be in a relationship where I
don’t expect the other person to give me some time and attention. If I don’t
get it it’s not a relationship. But, how do you not have a certain level of
expectation from you! And if that doesn’t fall through how can you not be disappointed
of you? And trust me when I say this,
that this sort of disappointment is the worst! How do you fall through and
escape this sort of a disappointment? How do you figure out what when wrong? Something
you did failed to work! That’s not a pretty feeling, is it? How do you overcome
that disappointment?
Try harder. And keep trying till you succeed. Yes, it sounds
cliched, but that’s how it is! There’s no substitute for hard work, my mother
used to say. My father used to believe in innovative thinking and finding
creative solutions to your problems. So, that’s that! What do you do when you
are disappointed of you? You break it down to yourself. What is your biggest
disappointment with you? Tackle that first. Give yourself a reasonable
practical time to work and put in your 100%.
So, that’s my shred of positivity for the day. Tackling my
biggest disappointment piece by piece.
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