The Art of Letting-Go

Love is very tricky. It brings with it a certain quality of pain along with all the sweetness. It’s as if the hurt and agony come free with the sweet bliss! So, even when it’s time to let the love go it’s not going to be easy. Time teases you with memories while the words of promises sound like hollow drums beating in your soul. You will also end up feeling a host of negative emotions like anger, bitterness and sorrow. But today, someone, who is going through a kind of a failure in romance, was explaining to me why it isn’t easy to let go.

He said that when you hold on to something/someone like your dear life you let it go only under two conditions. One, if you are convinced that whatever you had going on between you two has ended for good. But sadly, that realization doesn’t come that easily! You almost always want to cling on to the hope that the winds might bend, that bridges might mend or that love might happen or happen again. There is just no end to the hope. So, now, moving on to the second condition hoping that maybe it works.

Condition number two is if you find something/someone better. I like the sound of it: to find someone better! But how often do you find someone better and are ready to leave your past behind you to make your future come alive? Honestly don’t we get hung up on our past to the extent that it makes us blind to our present and future? How often have you let the right person walk past simply because you couldn’t push past your baggage from the past? Turns out letting go isn’t that easy after all!

So, then how do you let go and be happy? My answer is: you just go ahead and be impulsively happy with yourself. One of my previous bosses once told something which I’ll always remember. He asked us, radio jockey trainees, if we were the kind of person we would like to be seated next to at a dinner party. “If you aren’t you better be!” he said. Be the best company you could have. Do everything that grows you as a person.  Weed out things, attitudes and people if need be, but be the best possible happy version of yourself. You don’t wait for any realization to kick in and definitely don’t wait for the right one to waltz in. You decide to walk into your life and happiness and claim it!